Ideally, Life should be a festival of enjoyment and achievements. However, it brings us surprises of happiness and sorrows. These crests and troughs are the part and parcel of life of human. Whenever, I look back into my life and life of my colleagues, juniors and some many young persons in surroundings, I feel that they are getting lessons from life itself but many a times it happens that life teaches a lesson but we are so adamant student that we are not intentionally learning or acquiring knowledge from it. We are aware that we are the only animal in this planet to which does processing of acquired knowledge and which can also be used to sell or buy anything.
Today I am going to write about lessons that I have learned from my life and probably you also will agree about them. Transition from teen age to the age of 21 is fascinating for all individuals. We all are expected to complete graduate degrees and parents also seek a return of their investment from you (I am writing about typical Indian scenario in most of Indian families). They expect you should get a good job and settle in life as per their terms and conditions. However, we may or may not be ready to go about it.
At this moment, most of us wish to continue their studies further or some may get jobs. During our journey of 20s to 30s, many transitions do occur. Particularly for boys, pressure of getting handsome salary increasing as parents wish make arranged marriage. Similarly, in girls also this is stage of confusion in life. Who could be life partner? How I will get settled? Many such questions arise from girl’s mind. In 28-33 years, every one of our friends is getting married or so and hence pressure is increased on you. When I observed these things around me, I thought that lets figure out some key points so that they will be helpful for my friends.
Family: It is the most important thing in India. As our parents have invested so much of money on our education and parenting, it is now our duty to give ROI (Returns on investment). As they have made efforts to grow you up, you should and you must take care of them ahead in their life time. Having good and supportive family is beneficial in all aspects like emotionally, socially and financially too. I particularly have observed that people from background of families of more than one kid to parents are very much stable.
Brothers and Sisters: They too have crucial role in this age. They will guide you in educational crisis and also they will be of great help whenever you feel lonely. I think I am fortunate to have two sisters to whom you can share my feelings. Those who don’t have any brother or sister should seek help from cousins.
Maintenance of relationships: It is like giving water and nutrition to plants. Although, your brothers, sisters, or parents and even friends (including close ones) are there with you, but you need to nurture this bond of relationship continuously by talking with them at least once a week or month and more, and enjoying part of life with them. These people are cornerstones of your life. You should cultivate them carefully and grow them well. Remember, your plant will not be growing good if you don’t nurture and help them.
Life Partner: Marriage, although a critical issue for some of people of this age; it is essential for us. Life partner is the only one with whom you can share all of your feelings. For some who might be thinking of buying new home or settling their lives as per expectations, help of life partner will be greatest thing ever. This strengthens your relationship with partner.
Kids: When we have kids, at the same time, we are running to earn more and more in securing life of our family. However, giving time and helping kids to grow and learn experience of life is also must thing to do in life. Enjoying with kids is really a great fun which destroys all tensions of your life.
Friends: Good friends are always a need of this time and even life time. They are the one with whom you can share anything that you cannot share with even your life partner.Mentor: The best idea is that find a mentor (not necessarily of your age group, but can be more experienced than you) who can guide you.
Positivism: Get positive people around you.Don’t do things just for popularity. Do the things that you actually want to.
Travel: Travel increases your experience. Particularly, travel to villages, and cities. In current India, we have huge difference of lifestyle and many other factors in both of these places. Travel, travel and travel to gain more knowledge about living.Be what you are. Stop chasing perfection. No one is perfect in entire life.
Change: Accept the change. Change is the most important and constant thing in the world. Think on how you can change current situation.Stop comparing yourself with others.Try to acquire good things and habits from others.
Finance: Managing finances is very critical issue in this age. During early 20s, many of us have jobs and have money too. Hence, tendency is there to spend on shopping, movies and parties. However, savings are also essential for prosperity. These will be of great help when you are planning to buy new home for family.
Do not drink. Drinking, although it’s occasional, has serious hazards on body. Alcohol, although beneficial in some aspects, but its risks outweigh benefits.Say “YES” to things that will bring you joy. Take a break from responsibilities, job, family, and kids.Say “NO” at right times is most important. Depending on situation, saying no will save you.
Blessings: Blessings of every one and most importantly elderly one are most important.Control your anger. Anger can harm in many ways to your personality.Don’t miss the chance to tell family and friends you love them, for life is short and unpredictable.Create your own luck. Hard work, acquisition of knowledge, supportive people and positive attitude will help you to carve your future ahead.First listen to others and then speak.
Fitness: Fitness is must now a days. Fitness means not just joining gym but overall physical, social and mental state of well being.
Believe in god. Meditate at least 15 minutes a day. Belief in god makes you feel positive. Prayers to god will relieve all of your sorrows.
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